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How Emotionally Intelligent Are You?

Spring is the season of growth and there’s no better way to grow personally and professionally than to increase your emotional intelligence (also known as your EQ).

Last month, Allison was invited to participate in a weekly “Coach Chat” session moderated by Carolyn Bergman, Senior Director of Alumni Career Services at Emory University. Nearly 150 alumni signed up to attend “Enhance Your EQ with the Skills of Improv”. Here’s what you missed.

First, Allison defined EQ and explained how it fits into personal and professional development. Next, the group reviewed the core competencies of EQ — self-awareness, self-management, social awareness and relationship management. To wrap up the session, they reviewed strategies for increasing your emotional intelligence with improv skills and other techniques.

The best part of the webinar was the audience questions! Below is a snapshot of our 5 favorite Q&A moments.

5 FAVE QUESTIONS

1. What are the challenges in using EQ in the workplace?
Remembering to utilize. Part of self-awareness is to be present. So just thinking about self-awareness makes us more aware! However, you must also remember to be aware of what is happening around you and what is happening with others.
2. How do I enhance the EQ of my employees?
Expose them to the concept.  Introduce it to your team or colleagues through discussion, books, training, self-assessments and workshops. We can help with that.
3. How do I amplify my boss’s initiatives without looking like I’m kissing up?
Don’t just say “yes” to their ideas and leave it at that. Say “yes, and.” Take action on their ideas and build upon them.
4. How do I read my senior management team’s EQ?
The best way to read EQ is by observation, listening and being attuned to any of their emotional triggers and behavior. Notice how they respond in crises. That’s a key indicator.
5. How do I “observe myself” in the moment?
Remember to step back and allow sensory input to reach the rational part of your brain. Catch yourself in that moment when you are experiencing a certain emotion and ask, “why or what triggered that?”. Often we have a physical reaction to a certain emotion first – so be attuned to your own body and what it may be telling you about your emotional experience.

If you’d like to bring this Emotional Intelligence webinar to your group, email Allison at allison@dumoreimprov.com to set up a session. It’s great spring training for your team!

Well said, Chewbacca. A man(?) of few words with a high EQ.

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Say yes to something that scares you

Let’s take the leap into 2015 together! This year we hope to make our monthly emails more helpful by sharing rock-solid, real-life examples of how you can use improv skills at work and at home. And we hope you’ll share your experiences with us, too!

This month, we challenge you to say YES to something that scares you. Something that makes your heart beat fast and gives you butterflies in your stomach. A feat that feels like jumping off a cliff.

Last week, Elizabeth did something that’s been scaring her for 5+ years. She tried open mic improv poetry. Yes, it’s as scary as it sounds. Putting your name in a hat. Standing at a microphone in front of strangers. Asking for a topic. And blurting out a poem that you make up as you go. It was terrifying. And it was awesome. Like jumping into the deep end of the pool and making it to the side safely. Whew!

Doing something scary makes you feel alive. So try it this month. It can be as bold as sky diving or asking your boss for a raise. Or as simple as sending your dinner back to the kitchen because your steak wasn’t cooked right. It doesn’t matter what it is. As long as it makes you breathe a little faster and feel a whoosh of relief when it’s over.

Then contact us and let us know what you did that scared you, and how it felt. Or post a note on our Facebook page. Or tweet it @dumoreimprov. We don’t care. Just share the scare.

Be brave,
Allison & Elizabeth

Find Your Greatness

Hmmmmm. Is this what they mean by saying “yes, and”?

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What I Like About August Is…

What I like about August is… savoring the last days of summer amidst the buzz of back-to-school time. August is all about making the most of the moment, while looking forward to learning new things.

So we thought now is the perfect time to teach you a new trick to help you embrace the end of summer. It’s one of our favorite improv games called “What I Like About That Is…”

Here’s how you play:

  1. Engage in conversation with someone. Anyone. Your friend, your kid, your co-worker, your coffee barista. Whoever is around.
  2. No matter what the other person says, start your reply with “what I like about that is…”
  3. Say (or just think to yourself) “what I like about that is…” every time you speak and see where the conversation takes you. Notice if the other person smiles and nods a bit more.
Here’s how it works:
  • Knowing that you are going to reply with “what I like about that is…” forces you to listen with a positive ear. So you turn off your hyper critical mind and only hear the good stuff.
  • When your conversation partner discovers that you like what they’re saying, you’ll connect and build an alliance. It feels good to have someone like your idea.
  • Instead of “what I like about that is…”, you can say other things like:
    • What I respect about that is…
    • What I appreciate that is…
    • What’s cool about that is…

Now go find out what you like about things! Drop us an email or say hello on Facebook to let us know how it’s going.

Forward this improv game to a friend, so they can learn to listen with a positive ear!

ENJOY AUGUST!
Allison & Elizabeth

Um, when does the pool close?

French Bulldog Pool

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The Million Dollar Improv Question

Summer’s officially here and it’s the perfect time to plan a team building event for your group. Curious how to convince your boss or leadership team that it’s a good idea? Send them these articles that prove it!

How to Think Better, Faster on Your Feet CNN.com

Can Executives Learn to Ignore the Script? The New York Times

Yes, And Improv Techniques to Make You a Better Boss Fast Company

Forget PowerPoint: Improv is the New (Old) Way to Sell Huffington Post

Need more help? We’re happy to hop on a call or set up a face-to-face to help you tell your story. And if all else fails, improvise!

P.S. Join us on Facebook for the Summer of Improv. New improv challenges every week!

CHEERS!
Allison & Elizabeth

Now, wait a minute. Was today the office improv off-site?

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The Last-Minute Improviser’s Holiday Gift Guide!

‘Tis the season for exchanging gifts – which requires using all of your improv skills! Remember to listen for clues about what your loved ones really want, make good offers (and a very clear Christmas list!) and say “Yes, And” to whatever goodies appear under your tree. Then you’re all set to create a beautiful holiday scene.

All this talk about gift giving got the DuMore Improv gals thinking about what we’d like to see in our stockings this year. Check out our Last-Minute Improviser’s Gift Guide below for shopping inspiration. We bet someone on your list would enjoy these treats. Eat, drink and improvise!

ALLISON’S LIST:
“Bossy Pants” by Tina Fey – wisdom from the improv genius herself
Fitbit – a discreet accessory for tracking your stepsVanity Fair – magazine for great storytelling and Fast Company for great ideas
Giant Post-Its – because Romy and Michelle invented them
EG Windsor – elegant Earl Grey tea and sage infused Windsor vodka crafted by our friend Matt at EG Spirits

ELIZABETH’S LIST:
Kate Spade SAY YES earrings – a little reminder to say “Yes, And “every day
“Sometimes You Win, Sometimes You Learn” by John Maxwell – new book from an inspiring author
Wine Awesomeness Membership – great wine on the cheap gets your creative juices flowing!
Word. Notebooks – 2014 is bound to be full of crazy ideas
Perfect Bacon Bowl – clearly the result of some genius improvisational innovative thinking

Don’t forget about our Facebook Fun Fridays this December. We’re playing our holiday themed 185 joke game again with weekly prize winners. You’ve got 2 weeks to get in on the action!
MERRY CHRISTMAS & HAPPY NEW YEAR! Cheers, Allison & Elizabeth
Have a joyful & restful holiday!
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